Dreaming big doesn't have to mean we suddenly want to be a millionaire or become famous (although it could mean that for some of us). That's because "bigger" is a relative term. If we currently have no dreams, dreaming bigger might just mean we have a small goal that we want to reach. But even that is not always easy.
If we knew how to dream bigger, we'd already do it, we might think. So how do you start dreaming bigger?
Cultivate Confidence
To achieve big things, first, you have to believe that you can. If we’re not sure we deserve to achieve big things, why would we try, right? That's why the first thing we need to dream big is to get a confidence boost.
To get this boost, try to remember a time when you succeeded in doing something you set your mind to. Or, if you have a hard time, look for role models that dared to dream big and achieve more than was expected of them.
Face Fear of Failure
If you want to do something big, the fear can be intense. We might think: What if we fail? What then? If this sounds like you, it may be helpful to shift your mindset or perspective. Developing a growth mindset—or the belief that growth and learning are more important than success or other people's opinions—can help you shift your focus to the journey instead of the end goal. That way we can better enjoy the pursuit, even if it ultimately does result in failure.
Face Fear of Success
We often think we don’t pursue big dreams because we’re afraid of failure. But what if we’re really afraid of success? Success can mean different things to different people—some of these things are scary. For example, success might mean feeling like the odd one out in your family or friend group. It might mean having more responsibility than you really want. Or, it could lead to jealousy from others. There are lots of reasons why you may have a fear of success. But taking a closer outlook at these fears and thinking about how you might deal with them can help you move through them.
Use Your Imagination
Start by visualizing a variety of different possible exciting outcomes that might come from following your dreams. Maybe you imagine yourself owning your own business, having a big family, or traveling all over the world.
As you visualize, try to be mindful, paying attention to how your body feels during each scenario.
Find Meaning
Many of us get stuck on the path towards small dreams (or the wrong dreams). Often, it’s because we have not yet deeply explored what really matters to us. To make sure our big dreams are meaningful, reflect on these different things that research shows give us meaning.
- Positive relations with others. Warm, trusting relationships with others.
- Self-acceptance. Holding positive attitudes about the self.
- Autonomy. Feeling free to choose and direct one's own actions.
- Environmental mastery. Feeling that one can change one's circumstances.
- Personal growth. The ability to develop and grow as a person.
- Life purpose. Having a sense of meaningful direction in life.
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